This is one for the discussion table, so feel free to leave comments, thoughts and questions of your own.
Life in the dating world can be a little tricky at times.
You meet this great person, whether it's online or otherwise, and you are swept off your feet. Both of you are on your best behavior - calling or texting at least daily, making plans for fun and exciting dates, pulling out your best cooking skills to impress him or her, wearing your best attire...
Then, after about a month or so, you start to see each other for who you really are. The girl who seemed so independent and laid back suddenly freaks out about you wanting to stay home, make yourself some tacos and chill out despite seeing her the night before and having a date planned for the following night. The guy who was so sweet and charming blows you off for no apparent reason only to text you later on for a booty call. The fantastically foxy gal turns out to be seriously scary in bed. The amazingly athletic guy is actually a video game playing couch potato...
That's when the mind starts to wander. "I wish I could take James' body, John's personality and (insert current significant other's name)'s everything else and combine it all in to one great, perfect boyfriend." Or, "I wish I could put Rachel's body with Tanya's personality, and Julie's love for adventure with Carrie's intelligence and drive..."
This is what I have nicknamed, "The Frankenstein girlfriend/boyfriend." I've heard friends say something similar to the above so many times over, not excluding myself either.
So, what is it about dating someone and wishing they were someone else or at least had part of that someone else in them? Why can't we accept people for who they are once they let their 'good behavior' slip and they become themselves around us? Why are flaws deal breakers? Isn't it usually someone's IMperfection that makes them interesting and intriguing? Aren't we taken out of our comfort zone and forced to open our minds when we date someone who doesn't fit our 'criteria'?
1 comment:
i totally agree with your Frankenstein theory all people ever do is compare and rate things even this blog can be rated. what has society become? a place of unreachable dreams. but as long as we dont give up on it all make the game so much more fun. happy hunting
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